Kelly Goes to Court...Finally
You know, its been more than six years. All the politcal manuvering to keep it off the court docket has run out. In my opinion...thank GOD.
And what this trial and all the ridiculous posturing about whether the child was "fast-tailed" or "knew what she was getting into", breaks my heart. I am really disturbed by my own community's wanton dismisal of the importance of the virtue of young women's sexuality not only in this instance but in so many others.
I call it the normalization of inappropriate sexual behavior. For example, a 14 year old girl has a sexual relationship with a 20 year old man, and you can best believe there will be a lot of folks talking about how the girl is fast...not that the man is disgusting and vile and a sexual predator.
I don't know how many sisters I have met that have been subjected to inappropriate male behavior in childhood. By cousins, brothers, fathers--and have been told to suck it up and move on. And when theygrow up to be sexually promiscuous, and feeling like it is their fault.
In my own personal life, I have noticed that men and boys get the benefit of the doubt. They get coddled and nutured. And young black woman get raised to "do for self. Ain't nobody gonna want to take care of you." I have seen mother's be so hard on their girl children and come up with every reason in the book to keep supporting a grown ass son who should no better.
Black girls get raised, in many instances. Black boys get loved. Ain't that the truth.
When, as a community, are we going to defend the virtue of our girl children instead of making excuses for men who act inappropriately???
And what this trial and all the ridiculous posturing about whether the child was "fast-tailed" or "knew what she was getting into", breaks my heart. I am really disturbed by my own community's wanton dismisal of the importance of the virtue of young women's sexuality not only in this instance but in so many others.
I call it the normalization of inappropriate sexual behavior. For example, a 14 year old girl has a sexual relationship with a 20 year old man, and you can best believe there will be a lot of folks talking about how the girl is fast...not that the man is disgusting and vile and a sexual predator.
I don't know how many sisters I have met that have been subjected to inappropriate male behavior in childhood. By cousins, brothers, fathers--and have been told to suck it up and move on. And when theygrow up to be sexually promiscuous, and feeling like it is their fault.
In my own personal life, I have noticed that men and boys get the benefit of the doubt. They get coddled and nutured. And young black woman get raised to "do for self. Ain't nobody gonna want to take care of you." I have seen mother's be so hard on their girl children and come up with every reason in the book to keep supporting a grown ass son who should no better.
Black girls get raised, in many instances. Black boys get loved. Ain't that the truth.
When, as a community, are we going to defend the virtue of our girl children instead of making excuses for men who act inappropriately???
posted by Jonzee @ 11:10 AM
4 Comments:
At 11:38 PM,
Mac Daddy Tribute Blog said…
Good post. R. Kelly affirms the stereotype of black men as depraved sex fiends. I think that's why I like to see Barack Obama with his family. It kind of mitigates against the notion of black men as nothing more than walking phallic symbols.
At 1:38 PM,
Anonymous said…
The answer is when, as female we decide to join together and stop believing its a man's world or the highway...
On top of that men need to protect their daughters, nieces, sisters, cousin, aunt, and so forth.... until they choose to stand up then the slow it is to happen...
At 6:11 PM,
James Tubman said…
unfortunately our city is notorious for that kind of behavior
the media teaches us all to only see each other as objects for our own exploitation
the media teaches black men to only see black women and teenagers as a means of sexually gratifying themselves
people like kelly take this mentality to it's natural conclusion
At 10:35 PM,
Kit (Keep It Trill) said…
Black girls get raised and black boys get loved.
Wow, Jonzee, I never heard that one. That's deep.
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